Has anyone taught themselves to orgasm with their partner from not being able to?

Question

I have been with my parter for 3 months and we have been having sex regularly in that time. He is the first person I have had penetrative sex with so it took a while to get used to but now we can do everything and anything and have amazing sexual experiences together. Sex feels incredible to me - like unbelievably pleasureable but I just can't cum from anything he does. The foreplay is great, he lasts a long time, he stimulates me in every way imaginable and we try all sorts of positions and are never shy in any way with asking each other for what we want. I can orgasm when I masturbate and have been doing so for years but can't with him regardless of all the things we try. I've read about so many women experiencing the same thing but what I really want to know is if any of them overcame that? Should I have hope?
I enjoy sex without orgasming and my boyfriend never pressures me but I don't know if this is just another hurdle and if I should be working on my own to orgasm internally to help? Or should I wait and maybe it will come naturally? 
I really want to share this experience with my boyfriend. 
Please let me know if you've overcome this yourself. 
I'd appreciate any advice :) 
x

Answer

A lot of women can't orgasm from penetration. It doesn't mean anything is wrong w you or him or the sex y'all have. But that doesn't mean you can't reach an oegasm during sex, you just have to be a little creative ;) for example, me and my bf use sex toys during sex, like I'll massage my clit with a vibrator while he's fucking me from the back doggy style and that works like a charm. Then I get to cum, he gets to feel me cum, and then he can cum after lol.

Another option is anal play during sex, not sure if you are into that but it has helped me achieve orgasm REALLYYY well lol.

ALSO - I can't remember the name of the article but there's a great one on XO Jane about the correlation between the distance between your clit and your vagina and whether or not you can cum during sex. Try Googling it!

Answer

It can take a while to orgasm from sex for a lot of women. Most women generally find it easier to orgasm from masturbation. For me it took about 5/6 months to actually orgasm from sex with my boyfriend. He's amazing in bed and always went above and beyond trying to please me (he always did just never to the point of orgasm). It just took a while. For me I needed to get out of my head. My boyfriend wasn't my first but prior to him none of my sexual experiences had been positive so there was that issue. I also focused a lot on an orgasm and that didn't help at all. It wasn't till I stopped worrying about it that I actually had one from sex. Now it's super easy for me to orgasm from sex. But it doesn't take time and patience. You're doing all the right things by communicating and trying things but sometimes it just takes time.

Has anyone taught themselves to orgasm with their partner from not being able to?

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