As a black woman in the US, especially: we see one concept of beauty and how we "should act" because people of other races often don't understand us. 

We grow up in a world where in magazines and on tv we see a certain portrayal of what beauty is and we see mostly people that don't look like us, and not just that but also stereotypes that paint us out to be ratchet because we talk the way that we talk and act the way that we act (not all of us are the same, but I'm saying when most think of ways of behavior that are stereotypically black all of those thoughts usually have a negative connotation). Most people don't understand black hair and because of this protective styles, the way that we maintain it (headscarves, and Durags, dreads, etc) are seen as unprofessional and ratchet until they're made trendy by another group. All of these parts of who we are that we often have to explain to people or learn to embrace when people put them down. And if you don't live life in a black body you don't have to think about all of that. And the thing is 😂that's just the tip of the iceberg. Not even the most important part. People don't understand that stress, depression, snd hurt are often dealt with diffently in the black community than in other communities but just think we're angry and out of line but don't care to understand. And they can go their whole lives with that being okay. If I chose not to talk or act how white individuals define as "appropriate" then I probably wouldn't get far. This isn't to complain because I love being a black woman, but it's just discussing some of the things many don't see in us. Do you ever think about this?