COMING OUT: How can I come out to my parents?

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Your first instinct might be to do it in person (and sometimes that's perfectly fine!) but many members of the LGBTQ community have found it best to write a letter coming out to their parents.

Having a piece of paper in front of them lets parents take the time to absorb the information.

Their first reactions might be of surprise or shock. Rest assured that they love you. Sometimes it takes a while for folks to accept that their daughter or son is queer.

After you've written and given them a letter (make sure to say that you love them!), ask your parents if they're ready to have a conversation about it. Chances are all will be a-okay :) If nothing else, it will make for a good story later!

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My parents are really homophobic so I don't think they'd exactly accept me...

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I never got a chance to come out. I was outed by a jealous "friend." My mother took it terribly at first. She screamed and cried, told me I was better off dead than to be a lesbian. Now, 5 years later, she fully accepts me. She loves my fiancé. And she full-heartedly regrets the way she reacted. 
Sometimes, it just takes time. But if your parents or whoever really love you, they'll come around.

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I kinda just want to text my mom but at the same time I don't want to tell them

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I came out to my parents in a letter. They took it well at first. My dad hasn't said anything, and it's been a year and a half. My mom doesn't believe that I'm a lesbian. She's straight up told me that. I am happy with who I am and how I identify. I just wish my family was too.

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Or you can do what I did when I came out as bi
Mom: huh I just noticed your back is kinda curved
Me: oh?
Mom: yea it's a bit s shaped
Me: that's cuz I'm not straight *dabs*

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i came out with a meme lmao

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The topic came up with my mom very organically in conversation when she mentioned the possible effects of my new hair cut. My mom cried because she was worried that I was unhappy or struggling because of my queerness. I assured her that I’m happy with who I am. When I told my dad I was so nervous that I got a little nauseated. He didn’t take it as well but our relationship is still good.

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My coming out stories (I say stories bc I had to tell my divorced parents individually lol yay!) are rather bland. They weren’t very emotional or maybe i tried my best not to make them that way. With my mom she was basically accepting, I just had to be careful and all that. I don’t really remember it if I’m honest because It was simple and quick? No crying no big reactions nothing and i liked that. With my dad.. who’ll that was a different story. I told him after spending an evening with my the best friends one which was lesbian. He picked us up from the movies and dropped my friends off at home. After we were alone I told him that I felt like I had the same feelings towards girls like I did for boys and he kind of flipped. He ranted about how I was not to tell people about what I had just told him. The trip from my friends house to ours was very short but because of my confession he took the long way home... this gave me the basic idea that he wasn’t too happy with what I had disclosed on him. I was very resistant and argued why it was wrong for me to tell people, did he not accept me? He didn’t answer he just went on about how it was wrong and dangerous and all the nice stuff every worried queer 13 year old wants to hear. At the end of his long rant, just as we were arriving home,he told me he still loved me. To this day he doesn’t acknowledge that part of me and I don’t really care. I did what i felt I had to do and I am not ashamed of it. I grew up used to not having his approval in many other factors of my life so I didn’t really except I big hug or tears from him. I say if you’re going to come out to your parents do it when you feel it’s right for you. It can be scary, for obvious reasons. We’ve all heard about what happens to some queer kids. It’s hard to tell how some parents will react but as long as you have one person in your corner you can make it through anything.

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Since my parents are 100%homophobic I think that went I can leave from my house got tell them iam bisexual and leave

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I can never come out to my parents as a lesbian. I tried to come out to my mom one time last year. She tried to attack me twice and threatened to throw me into conversion therapy. I managed to safe myself from that and I’m fine now. She also said that if she told me my dad what I told her, he would kill me. So, my parents are 100% homophobic because my mom talks shit about gay people behind their back and believes that only men and women can marry so that they can have babies🙄 My dad is the more confusing one. My sister said he would be more accepting but after what my mom said, I’m not so sure anymore. I’m going to be an adult this year, so hopefully I can accept myself more. Right now I feel like I’m not normal because of this.

COMING OUT: How can I come out to my parents?

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