THE BIG O: The first step to orgasm...desire

The first step? Desire. This desire for sexual activity can come from an erotic thought, seeing or being touched by your partner, or from seemingly out of nowhere!

And what turns one person on could have absolutely no effect on another. Sexual desire is deeply individual and can be either spontaneous (when your body is randomly like “Hey, let’s go have some sex”) or responsive (desire that results from being stimulated in some way).

Pay attention to what you are doing or experiencing when the mood strikes. You'll learn a lot about yourself and your sexual preferences!