Virgin!?!?!

Question

Hi, im a 14 year old virgin, and im really scared to have sex, i dont know why, but i just have that fear.
For example (if this helps) in health class at my school (since im in 8th grade they go into more details) i couldn't stay on the class cause it made me really nervous.

So my questions 
are-is this a normal fear?
Do you think i will change?
And did anyone else have this fear?

Answer

Yes it's quite common and it does change. You know how people will say you'll know when you're ready? You will. And until that happens (at least in my experience) you'll have a gut feeling to not do it. That feeling is your intuition, learn to listen to it as it'll save you from a lot of things.

Answer

It's perfectly fine to be nervous. I just lost my virginity on march 11th because my boyfriend and I were waiting to for us both to be ready and we've been together since 8th grade. I'm 16 now and waiting was the best thing I could've done. Everyone around me were losing their virginity and always asking when it was gonna happen for me. But waiting and not feeling pressured was the best decision.

Answer

Being scared is 100% normal, it may go away someday, it may stop when you meet the right person, or it may never stop, and that's ok! If anything, you're lucky that fear will help you with your judgement to choose the right partners.

Answer

The older and more educated you get on the matter the less you'll feel afraid.
It's normal, just save yourself from the stress and don't have sex until you are 100% secure.

Answer

It's a totally normal fear!

Chances are, it will go away in its own. But even if it doesn't or it takes a long time, that's fine! You should never feel ashamed of not wanting to have sex. I didn't have sex until I was 20, and that's fine! I know plenty of people who are 22 and 23 and still haven't had sex because they don't feel ready or they're waiting to meet a person they feel comfortable and sexy with. And some people never have sex, because they just don't want to!

However your feelings on sex evolve over time, know that you are still super young, and you have plenty of time to figure things out. The only hard and fast rule is that you should never, ever do things that you feel uncomfortable with!

Virgin!?!?!

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