UPDATE to He finally agreed to counseling

Well....after finally getting him to agree to couples counseling and setting the appt for next week...it looks like its not gonna happen 😒. We found out that the only therapist that can get us in with our work schedules is transgender and my fiancé is too uncomfortable with that to go meet with them. I know I should be more understanding about his level of comfort but I am so disappointed. He says he just wont be able to take the therapist seriously. I just wish he would be a little more open minded. It is what it is, I suppose. On another really confusing note...I came home from class yesterday to the Fertibella starter kit. Apparently he ordered it a week ago and wanted to surprise me. We need a long talk but I also feel like we need a mutual perspective to help us.