Is this nornal

So my husband can't cum without jacking off on me or inside and the sex is just God awful. I can't take it anymore. I love him but seriously have thoughts of leaving not just because of this I'm currently 10 weeks and I'll ask him if he wants sex he says no. Okay fine so I go do it myself I just really miss that closeness and honestly a nice hard dick just for me... I don't feel sexy or confident