Hello Ladies. I've always felt uneasy when my SO went to the strip club. Do you think it's cheating if your SO goes to a strip club ?

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Strip clubs are for single men. If your SO wants another woman shaking it in his face, it won't be long before he's in bed with another woman. The more you see what you're not supposed to have; the more you want it. The more he desires them, the less he will desire you!

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I wouldn't say cheating but I definitely feel uncomfortable. My boyfriend has only gone  when he went to a bachelor party and he said it was nasty so I'm glad they picked a strip club with nasty girls 😂😂

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I just wouldn't understand why my husband would want to look at other naked women when he has me...I know he would never go to one anyway but each to their own.

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I don't consider it cheating per se,  but if there are boundaries already set and he disregards them then there is an absolute issue.  I never understood strip clubs , especislly when a couple is married.  I feel like a huge part of marriage is the promise that sexually we will only be with our partners.  Men don't die when they get married and of course they will look and be attracted to other women , but to go out and seek other nude women for sexual purposes is strange to me ...especially since they spend money on these women.  I always tell my husband did he wants to pay someone for a nude dance I could always use the extra money ! 
      Anyway this all depends on what you and your spouse have talked about . Some men and women are 100% cool with their spouse at clubs and even participate,  some aren't.  It's definitely worth a conversation before marriage happens so that you both are on the same page !

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i wouldnt say its cheating, but for me its not okay. he can look at all the porn he wants, those women might as well not be real, hes not in actual proximity to any of them, but i dont want any real naked girls near him, only my real naked flesh is allowed in his presence. ive been to a strip club, i loved it, and i was allowed to chat with the strippers. id never go there now that im in a relationship and id never let him.

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I guess it's not technically cheating but I would be so heart broken if i found out my husband went or even  wanted to go.  It would make me feel gross and undesirable and make me thick oh I'm  not sexy or hot enough for him.  If my husband ever said he wanted to go I honestly would be pissed, can't help it but I know id be pissed.

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Cheating? I wouldn't go that far, but it does make me sad when my husband goes - even though its only been for his friends' bachelor parties. I try to stay calm so he feels like he can tell me all about what happened without me freaking out. 😂

Not overreacting is so important for clear, open communication. Talk to him if you're totally against it, but remember to keep your cool and act like you're an understanding person (even if you're ugly crying on the inside).

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If he's not touching or getting emotionally involved then I don't care who he looks at.

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It doesn't bother me at all, BUT I have come to have a greater understanding of how it could bother people through this app. Basically, the difference, I think, between me and the many people who are uncomfortable with it is the general relationship/environment in which the question comes up. My husband's experience with strippers/strip clubs is purely bachelor parties and like, frat things in college (which was a million years ago). To me, those are very normal things, and it doesn't really show a love of strippers so much as it does a lack of creativity! But other women on here are talking about their SOs going to them the way "normal" people go to bars -- one woman mentioned that that is where her husband goes to play poker! They are also often in situations where money is tight, and they don't appreciate their dollars being wasted in that manner. Often, the SOs on here seem quite unenlightened, to put it mildly, and really appear to be constantly running around staring slack-jawed at other women, grabbing their wives and demanding sex, and expecting their wives to shoulder the burden of all domestic chores. On top of that, there are the many women who experience serious trust issues based on past behaviors of their SO. If any of that was my situation, and I think a lot of that IS the situation for a lot of women on this app, then yes, I would be much more likely to have a problem with it. All that being said, I stand by the fact that for someone in my particular scenario to make a big deal out of it, it would come across as a little psycho. I do have a question, though -- are there really men who think strippers are like, purely hot, and aren't kind of laughing at them/feeling pity for them? Like, is some glassy eyed woman with bad roots and cheap boob job scars really the dream girl for a lot of guys? I guess I just don't see the threat there...

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I dont think its cheating but it would make me uncomfortable. I asked my bf if he'd ever go to a strip club and he said he wouldnt pay to see a random girl strip when he has me and can see it for free lol

Hello Ladies. I've always felt uneasy when my SO went to the strip club. Do you think it's cheating if your SO goes to a strip club ?

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