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How do you tell the difference between pre-wedding jitters vs. Truly second guessing your relationship?

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This sounds cliche but you just feel it in your gut. 
I was married for three years to someone that I just never felt the passion and connection to. I had pre wedding jitters. I was more concerned with my beautiful wedding than the marriage. Needless to say we divorced. 
I never understood the "when you know, you know" expression until I met my husband now. We argue and get annoyed with each other like any relationship, but the difference is this feeling inside that I'm committed and would never leave this. That he's always been the one. It's hard to explain if you haven't felt it yet. 
If you don't have this feeling about him, I urge you to think long and hard about getting married. I know it's tough to admit once you said yes, bought the dress and picked the invitations but it's far worse to sell your self short by wondering if he's the one.  Good luck, Don't settle :)

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Sit down with a piece of paper and maybe a friend.  write down how you see your life in ten years, thirty years.  Like say ten years from now you would like to own your home, have a car that starts everytime you turn the key, you want to have X # children, you want them to have a yard with a swing. Thirty years maybe you want to travel a bit, you want to sit outside with your best friend and a beer, you want to watch your grandkids play.  Now ask yourself how does the man i am going to marry fit in my dream life.  Together, with intelligent money management, is it likely we will own a home?  Can i have a reliable car? Does he also want children and grandchildren? Would he like to travel or sit on a swing with a beer and me, when i am old and gray?
If you can say yes, with him, to whatever your life is (this was just a part of mine) then you probably have a keeper. But be honest, if he has a spending problem, or hates kids, or if you are not confident he will love you and want to be with you when you are old a grey, then maybe you should step back.  Love is wonderful, but despite what the songs say you actually need more then love, you need a future. If you can clearly see him fitting your future then congratulations.

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Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?

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