I'm the worst. Who does this?

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I'm 25 years old, have my undergrad degree, have a loving husband and a wonderful home....but when I found out I was pregnant I cried myself to sleep. I don't feel ready. I didn't plan on this and I was on anxiety meds and am now terrified I hurt the baby. I'm so angry and sad. Has anyone had this response to finding out you're pregnant? Or am I just a horrible person?

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You're not a horrible person. Im 25 and never want a baby. Ever. Sounds to me like you just aren't ready and it caught you by surprise. There's nothing wrong with that, you're only human. Don't worry so much :)

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Lol you are NOT a horrible person.  The thought alone of pregnancy is scary, especially if this is your first. I felt the exact same way when I found out I was pregnant and instantly my mind was clouded by all these questions and doubts. As time went on however, my fear and uncertainty started turning into excitement and pure happiness. I had a mind set that EVERYTHING happens for a reason and was determined to be the best mommy. There is no guide book or instructions manual as to how to raise a child you learn as you go and it's an amazing experience,  yes there are difficult days but the amount of love, hugs and kisses your child will bring you I guarantee will be like no other 💖 So cry if you have to. Take a bath. Relax. Breathe. Don't think about it. And when you are good and calm reevaluate your feelings and talk to your SO. I'm sure you will be just fine hun and congrats momma, you're creating life, and that IS a miracle😊💖

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You are perfectly normal. My second pregnancy was like this. And if anyone pops up to tell you how horrible you are for being upset because they can't conceive and would love to trade place with you, ignore them.

A pregnancy isn't a miracle. It happens all the time. A baby isn't always a blessing and it's okay to be upset. Those are things I really needed to hear when I was depressed during my pregnancy, so I hope it helps.

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No, it's not just you. Motherhood is a scary thing. My hubby and I are about to start TTC again after taking a little break. We only tried for two months before the break. He wants a child REALLY badly...I want a child, but I don't. Mainly because I'm scared. Scared I'm going to be a bad mom, scared financially, scared of child birth, etc. I don't think you are a horrible person...maybe just a little shocked and confused right now :)

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Pregnancy IS terrifying! And despite what anybody says...NOBODY is completely ready for everything a child brings. It changes everything, but I think along the way you will settle into the idea. As far as the medication goes, I wouldn't worry too much because some women have to stay on it throughout the pregnancy and have perfectly healthy babies. You aren't a horrible person. You're completely normal!

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You are not horrible.  I cried when i found out that i was pregnant but i was also 17 and was scared my father would try to hurt me so i would have a miscarriage. Instead he kicked me out the moment he found out. That my daughter is 6 1/2 and the greatest thing that head ever happened to me.  I knew i wasn't ready but the moment i held her i knew i was meant to be a mummy.

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You're not horrible!!! I cried all day long when I found out I was pregnant with my first. And several times after. And not happy tears.

You're just worried, it's totally normal. Talk to your OB if you start really stressing, because that can be worse than the medication. I have been able to contain my anxiety mostly with calming techniques, and Benadryl to force myself to sleep when I can't handle it.

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You're not a bad person!  You're afraid is all.

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You are normal, you sound like a wondeful person who was just caught off guard by a life changing situation. Don't feel bad about yourself, you will adjust and I'm sure that you will be just fine!

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You are NOT a horrible person honey. Having a baby is a huge change in someone's life, it's normal to feel anxious.
Like you, I'm 25, I have a degree and am happily married. I've always wanted to have a baby and was over the moon when I found out I was pregnant, but I couldn't keep from asking myself "What if it's too soon? Am I ready for this? What if I don't love my baby? What if I can't take care of him the proper way?" Etc etc
It is perfectly normal and sane, as far as I know. 
+ the hormones really mess with your feelings ^^
If you feel like it's too much too soon, maybe talk to a counselor and to your hubby?

I'm the worst. Who does this?

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