How much pain is normal post partum?

My doctor doesn't think I need to be seen unless I'm soaking a pad, I'm bleeding more then I was the last few days but it isn't completely soaking a pad... I'm passing some small clots but they said it's normal. My back hurts it's like a throbbing pain off and on and I have some pain in my lower back/ hips and butt but I feel like I'm constipated. When I pee I get sharp pain where my stitches are but it goes away after, but it literally stops me from peeing it's so sharp at first lol. I guess I want to know if this is all normal? It seems like my doctor doesn't want to check me unless I'm bleeding to death or something, so I want to know if this is what normal PP pain is? I'm kind of a hypochondriac and my mind always assumes it's the worst thing possible. 😂 I was feeling so good for the first week and now it's completely different. 
- Also I just realized the doctor said no lifting anything heavier then my baby, but I picked up my fat ass 20 pound cat last night. 🙄