How do you move on? D&C or Natural miscarriage

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Hey Glow community. I've never felt so low in my life. I ended up in the ER today with a kidney stone, and as part of my treatment, they did a vaginal ultrasound tho and saw no movement. I was 6w, 3D with HCG level of 8,000 and they said should've seen something given where my HCG levels were. OB said he's 95% sure it's not a viable pregnancy. Said it was "an empty sac with maybe just all little collection of cells." Also hasn't ruled out an ectopic. I have repeat bloodwork on Monday and another ultrasound on Tuesday, but I know in my heart there's no hope.  I'm heartbroken and I don't know how to feel. My acupuncturist wants me to wait and try to miscarry naturally. That a D&C is harder on the body because they clean out too much of the base uterine lining and there's a possibility for scar tissue.  I don't know if I'm strong enough to wait. The thought of carrying this empty pregnancy around is tearing me apart.  Thoughts would be appreciated.

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I'm currently going through my fourth... after my third they went in and did a D&C which I was OK with that except for after my third it took another six years before I got pregnant with this one and that was after I started seeing an acupuncturist for stress and anxiety and taking Chinese herbs to help clear away any scar tissue in my uterus I also have endometriosis. I have an appointment tomorrow to see the doctor to see what she says but most likely I will be seeing my acupuncturist to help my miscarriage complete on its own.

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There's really no right answer it's whatever is right for you. I've had 4 mc in the past 11 months- two at 5 weeks (chemical) and two at 8-9 weeks where the baby never grew past 6 weeks. All were natural. That said waiting 2+ weeks knowing you have a dead baby isn't fun so d and c helps emotionally and you need it if you want the tissue tested. On the flip side always easiest on your body not to have a procedure and anasthesia if you don't need one. Sorry if no help- there's pros and cons to each so really you can't make a wrong decision. Fwiw two natural mc at 8-9 weeks were unpleasant but didn't need any medical treatment nor did I stay home

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Choose what you feel you are leaning towards. I had a mc at 6 weeks and it started naturally. The bleeding + cramps were awful, not to mention the emotional pain. 
 Then I had a mc at 12 weeks but I only measured 7. I didn't start miscarrying on my own so I was given meds while admitted in the hospital. It was a rough night of cramps and pain but was nicer being in a setting that was comforting and the nurses were very nice. However I didn't pass everything I needed to so I ended up having d&c anyways. The procedure was very easy and not scary. Hardly any cramping after and very minor bleeding.  It sucked to have to go thru the night of meds only to end up needing d&c but doctor said the meds soften the cervix making the procedure easier to do and easier on the body. 
I totally understand not wanting to wait for your body to pass naturally... carrying something that isn't viable is an awful feeling. I know I really just wanted it all over with once I knew things weren't right. 
That's my experience.. hugs to you xoxo

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I personally did a d/c, the waiting game was way too  much of a "mindf*ck"  like  are u really  supposed to wait around??

Side note:
That clearing up your uterus is a good thing, I got pregnant the next cycle.

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Im so sorry youre going through this. Don't lose hope. 
I miscarried twice one at 5wks (March 2016) and a few days and the other 6 weeks (July 2016). Then October 19, 2016 i found out i was pregnant again, and I am currently 30 weeks today. 
Please don't lose hope. I believe in God and He was and has been my stronghold through it all. Im praying for you, for comfort, healing, and peace. It's not easy but you're not alone. I am here if you need anything.