I don't think I have ever achieved an orgasm through sex, not with any of my previous partners or my husband. We are TTC and haven't been successful. In some of the things I've read, they say it's possible that female orgasm can help bring the sperm up. My husband had told me when we were dating that he doesn't like "toys" because it makes him feel like less of a man, that he can't do his job. We just passed 9 years together and I rarely bring up toys in the bedroom. Well tonight I did, and boy did he make me feel guilty for asking. I tried to explain what I had read before and, aside from TTC, that it isn't fair that he gets off every time and I can't through penial penetration. We ended up not doing it because to me it felt awkward and I felt guilty for asking.