I have a "stepdad" aka stepdouche that I cannot stand in the slightest. He is literally the worst person I have ever had the displeasure of being around. He is highly opinionated, racist, bigoted, foul smelling, and the most miserable sob I've ever been around. My ENTIRE family hates him. He treats my mom and siblings like shit. Won't lift a damn finger in the house to clean it but will bitch when its dirty. This man is so nasty that at one point he was too lazy to get up and use the bathroom so he would piss in his empty distilled water jug beside the bed for his c-pap machine. Unfortunately my mom won't divorce him despite that he has driven a huge wedge in mine and my moms relationship. Basically, is it wrong for me and my husband to say that he is NOT grandpa and that he will never EVER be allowed to have any relationship with our daughter? He's not allowed to spank her, and if we ever hear him speak to my daughter the way he speaks to my mom and siblings my husband will probably beat him within an inch of his life. I want to explain these things to my mom but I don't know how to. Am I in the wrong? I don't want a man like this around my child at all.