Heart Stopped

We lost our little boy at 40w2d back in June. We were so completely blindsided and crushed.  We have been trying TTC since December and no luck so far.  Then I got a call from my Mom today and my Godparents' daughter who was one of my best friends growing up is in danger of losing her baby.  She is due in May so it's very early.  Everything is just piling up on me and j don't know how much more I can handle.  When do things start to get better?