Having a hard time maintaining friendships...

Yes it's normal and then when you have a baby you lose even more.  But the few true friends you keep will just pick up where you left off as if no time had passed and the others well does it really matter? 

Me 🙋🏼 Just bought a house with my boyfriend of three years and we're not much for going out anymore. Anytime I ask my friends to hangout it involves going to the bar and then getting drunk just about. Totally not my thing. I feel like all I do is work and come home to an empty house as my boyfriend works looong hours. It's hard, I feel lonely and try to stay occupied with making renovation plans for our home but it's definitely hard. 

I feel ya girl! I have like no girl friends honestly. I'm 27, I've been married since I was 18 and have an 8 year old currently. I've just realized that most people my age aren't in the same place in life that I am. Plus I don't drink and neither does my husband. And normally anytime people invite me anywhere, it's to drink! So... We do have 1 couple that we are close with and hang out with a lot. They are our age and have 2 kids and don't drink either. So we go over or they come over and we cook out and let the kids play, or we go places with the kids together. My best suggestion for be that you try to find and become friends with people who live the same lifestyle you do. And also, the older I've gotten, the more I've realized I just don't have as much time for maintaining friendships. I would rather be at my son's soccer game than at the beach or bar with friends. 

I still have quite a few good girlfriends. I think a major reason that is the case is because I've included my husband in those friendships & now they are his friends too. I still hang out with just the girls sometimes, but also hanging out with my husband included means I can nurture my friendships & my relationship simultaneously. One thing I love about my relationship is that my husband & I are both interested in being friends with each other's friends-- I think that's a beautiful thing. I doubt I would have married someone who had no interest in the other people who are important in my life.Now more of my girlfriends are in committed relationships (I'm 33), but I maintained-- & even formed, in a few cases-- these friendships when I was married & most of these girls were single. I think you have to meet people in the middle: sometimes I'd go to bars with them (I think it's actually pretty fun to listen/watch them try to scope out guys etc.), & sometimes I'd suggest other stuff & we'd do that. Really the thing that's important to me is being with my friends, so I don't really care where we go-- I always enjoy hanging out with them. Plus I think looking for a partner can be really important to single girls, & bars are one place where people look to meet partners, so I want to be supportive of that aspect of my friends' lives.Sorry, that got long!

I have friends that I rarely see. I'm the last to get married & have a baby so majority of the time they couldn't go out, now they're done having kids & I'm just starting