Is it wrong to only want a certain gender?

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So, I had a very hard time growing up as a female. We females all know how ruthless and mean our fellow female can be. I told myself even as a teen, I never want a girl because I just never want my kid to go through this stuff, especially now and days because there are horrible things that can happen to both genders, but especially girls. With this being said... I really really really want a boy and always have. Of course... I just want a healthy and strong baby no matter what gender and I'll be happy either way but I honestly think I may be a little upset with a girl... I'm sure I'd get over it pretty fast tho. We did treatments to achieve this baby so I shouldn't be even caring about the gender because I was blessed with achieving this pregnancy. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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Being a parent is difficult. You can't focus on all the "what if's" that could happen to your child, regardless of gender. 
People are ruthless, not just girls/women.

If you have a daughter, focus on raising one that *isnt* one of those "mean girls".

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I don't think you're wrong. It's pretty common. I think it's only bad if you just like don't want the baby at all if it's a different sex than what is preferred. I wanted a boy too. I got a little girl and she is my whole entire world. I can't even put into words how great and special she is. I'm sure you will feel the same if you end up with a girl. Now that I have my baby girl, I want another girl! Lol. Good luck and congratulations.

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Absolutely not. It's completely normal to feel a certain way about gender preference. I sought advice with my first pregnancy because I wanted a girl, believed I was having one, and was upset to discover it was a boy. And then I felt guilty for feeling upset. It was a mess, but I found it was not only normal but common. You aren't alone!

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Being a female is hard and we definitely deal with things that most males don't have to. I don't think there's anything wrong with hoping for a boy but if you do have a girl I'm sure you'll raise her to be strong and confident. She can be the girl that sticks up others and speaks out against the negative things we have to deal with.

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I have 5 brothers, no sisters and have always been a huge tomboy and just always related more to boys....so I really really really reallyyyyyy wanted a boy and thought 100% I would have a boy. Turns out I'm having a girl and altho at first I was disappointed I got over it and now can't wait for her to be here any day now! Whatever's meant to be, will be 💫

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I felt the same way. I know how hard it was for me to grow up and I didn't want to see any daughters that I might have struggle with the same issues that I did. Im pregnant with a boy right now, but I'm still worried that if our second is a girl, she'll have a rough time. 
I guess the best thing to do is just work on being a positive role model.

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Gender disappointment is real. If you feel that way find support. There's tons of information online about it.