Was this an abusive relationship?

In the past I had a boyfriend, let's call him Tommy. We were young and he was the first really boyfriend I had. We had been dating for a few months when things started to go downhill for our relationship. Me not having a license I relied on my mom to take me places and she didn't exactly trust him to drive with me in the car. Whenever he'd ask to hang out and I couldn't go he would guilt trip me into feeling bad and would call me and my mother names and even say things like "if you really loved me you'd find a way". Sometimes when we'd have sex he'd suggest doing things I was uncomfortable with but because I wanted to make him happy I'd agree to it. I remember him yelling at me whenever we would fight and I'd basically sit there like a dog with it's tail between his legs. I was always depressed whenever things went wrong between us because he'd make it out to be my fault. I would self harm and drink and that made matters worse because he'd tell me how unattractive I am. Sometimes he would even make me drink with him because it was "fun".