Do you look forwad to getting pregnant again after a rough pregnancy?

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I'm on modified bed rest at the moment and I need people to talk to. So I have had a relatively smooth pregnancy up until 31 weeks. Before that it was just me worrying constantly because we lost our first baby. At 31 weeks I noticed some brown spotting and went to the ER and was diagnosed with preterm labour. I'm 1cm dilated and was put on modified bed rest. I really feel depressed and down. I feel incomplete. I feel like im missing something. I feel sad that I can't be "normal" and have a healthy pregnancy. Somehow I'm blaming myself for what's happening. I don't feel that I want to get pregnant again even though we wanted a big family. I know that there are women with stories that are worse than mine and I shouldn't complain. But I really feel depressed. Can you share your stories with tough pregnancies and how you managed?

Thanks everyone!

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I know what you mean.  I have 3 kids  (also had 1 missed miscarriage post heartbeat at 9 weeks) and each pregnancy had had some sort of problem. I've had placenta previa twice, gestational diabetes twice, a hematoma with one,  a heavy bleed out of nowhere at 31 weeks that got me sent to the ER and partial bed rest, 2 inductions (due to water leaking with no contractions) one with a level 4 tear, and my last baby was a c section  (became overdue and developed severe preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome, doctor has been practicing for 30 years and said he's never once seen someone get it that bad with a 3rd baby). I'm a pretty healthy person so I don't understand why I never have just a normal pregnancy and birth. At times I've been frustrated with my body for not doing what it's "supposed" to do. But, I have 3 amazing kids.  They're perfect. Once you have your perfect baby in your arms, the journey it took to get there will no longer matter. I look back on my faulty pregnancies and think "c'est la vie" and then kiss my babies and I'm happy :) hang in there, this too shall pass!

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With my first I went into preterm labor at 28 weeks. When I went in for my blood glucose test I was 2 cm dilated and 80% effaced. It was a nightmare. I had a really rough pregnancy from there until I delivered at 35w6d. So much medicine and hospital stays and bed rest, all the bed rest. Couldn't even go to the store - I was going insane. By the end of it I wanted it all over I was exhausted and just done. I regret feeling so ready to have my baby, I wished I had been patient. She's completely healthy thank god but still. Now I'm pregnant again - progesterone shots starting at 16 weeks most likely to avoid sudden preterm labor again. But I'm super excited, not worried at all - well a little.

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With my second daughter I had a ton of complications, bleeding, preterm labor, umbilical cord issues, heart defects, growth issues, all sorts of fun stuff. My next pregnancy was completely normal! I was a nervous wreck the whole time but everything was fine and there weren't any problems. I have a really bad memory so as soon as my problem pregnancy was over I forgot all about it... until I was pregnant again and then I was like "oh...right" and all the worry came back! But we got through it!

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This is my second pregnancy, but even though i had no symptoms with my first and everything was a breeze, i have hyperemesis this time. I can't move without getting sick, and there isn't much i can keep down. I'm thinking this will be my last. I don't want even the chance of being this sick again.

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I'm looking forward to a second pregnancy. But I'm also really scared. I've had abnormal bleeding twice one resulted in a threatend miscarriage and I was on bed rest. But luckily it turned out okay. But now I'm 30 weeks and when I switched doctors they found on my 20 weeks scan I have placent previa so I have my appointment to get it checked tomorrow. I know I'll still have time for it to move if it didn't but still nervous about it.

Do you look forwad to getting pregnant again after a rough pregnancy?

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