Why on Earth is that even a phrase? Why on Earth if someone is being called racist, or think they understand what black ppl go thru... why is this the first thing that is said?? What the heck you want me to do give you a trophy for marrying or dating a black man ? Or a black Woman ? You want me to thank you for making mixed  black babies? Why is that a defense line ? I'm sorry I'm just venting ... but that really erks my nerves !!