My daughter is almost 1 year old and my hubby never changes her, never let me go out for just a few hours without her! going insane with his attitude!

Sarah

I love my hubby but god he drives me up the wall sometimes. I've been patient since our baby was born, he was away since she was 2 days old (he had work overseas for 7months so i stayed at home alone), i didnt expect him to change her i just tried to encourage him to spend some dad and daughter time together which he does almost every day, he plays and sings to her after he gets off from work. But thats all that he'll do, he wont change her even though i've tried to talk to him nicely, showed him the wipes and how to change her he just walks away and i feel like he's so rude for being like that. Whenever he comes home i will rush within 30-40 minutes to try and cook some dinner and my daughter usually whines at my feet and she would have had a poopy diaper so i asked him pls i need your help to change her, im making dinner. He's just there playing with his god damn phone playing super mario! He wont even look up and go, you change her.

This tension had built up since january. Right now the tipping point is whenever i want to go out just for 1-2 hours to the gym, i ask him to watch our baby and he will always go why dont you put her with your mom? my mom works and she has her own thing to do during weekends. When i tell him no he'll go okay i will put her with my mom then. I'm like omg our daughter is such a good and easy baby to take care of! what kind of father cant watch his own kid for just 2 hours?! most of the time she'll just nap in her swing. This week i wanted to go for my birthday dinner with my friend and asked him if he can babysit her for a few hours. Again he goes, hmm you're not bringing her? why dont you put her at your mom? i said mom gets off work at 7pm, you want me to drop her off at 7?! thats so unreasonable (not to mention my mom lives far away). So he goes okay i will drop her off with my mom. (mil hates taking care of babies! which is why i never drop her off at mil).

Oh i'm also the one who does everything in the house, laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, reading and feeding my daughter, wash and sterilize 9 baby bottles even taking my daughter out for walks. It's come to a point where my hubby is too comfortable doing his own thing and he's ignoring the both of us cos i get things done so much. I even feel resentful towards him cos if he's behaviour is so crappy like this, i dont feel like taking time for date nights and stuff. In the past i tried to organize things and left my baby with a sitter (which i had to pay for out of my small pocket money) so that we can go for a date and all he does is have his face glued to the phone.