Why does my boyfriend prefer porn over sex with me?

Question

It's so aggravating. My boyfriend constantly watches porn probably like every day. And we only have sex probably once every two weeks. I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to him but he just won't talk about it. It makes me feel so shitty about myself.. I need advice...

Answer

It's not you babe, trust me. It sounds like he has an addiction and it's not good that he A. Won't talk to you about it and B. It's effecting your sex life. I know it's tough to realize that it isn't you, because it totally isn't but just remember it's his addiction. Tell him that you aren't comfortable with it and if he isn't willing to try and stop, you have every right to leave

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Look at it from a mans perspective. Sex is a lot of work, sweat, sore muscles, sometimes frustration on his performance or keeping hard. It's frustrating to make a woman orgasam. Most don't from penetration alone. Hand cramps or legs etc Oral sex is tired some. Verses something quick that he doesn't have to sweat or really work for. He knows what works for him and it's not exhausting. It's understandable. If he works or you have kids or school etc. One is a quick fix. One is a lot of work. It's it's not that he means to reject you it's just easier. With porn it's variety. If you had the option of watching the weather channel or changing it you would change the channel until you find something you like to watch. It's not that he doesn't like you or wish you looked that way. It's that there's so many options to see. He's not cheating or tracking them down. Try watching with him or showing him one that you like. Take an interest in things that he does and bond over those things sports. Video games. Music. movies. Relationships are more than just about sex. Go out and have fun. Enjoy each other's company. Talk. Share. Best and worst times before you met. Best Xmas memory. Things you are scared of share intimacy that way. Relax.  And enjoy each other's company.

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It takes less energy when they're tired after a busy few days. I've had a very honest conversation about this with my fiancé.

Why does my boyfriend prefer porn over sex with me?

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