I wasn't going to post anything about this but I have to. My brain has so many different thoughts on it and I really need some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and I'm beyond blessed to have such an amazing man in my life. He's honest, so caring, pays for everything, works his ass off, and always treats me right. There's just one huge problem (for me anyway) his fucking ex girlfriend... They were together for 4 years, got engaged and then 2 months before we met they had broke up and she pretty much left him because she wasn't happy anymore. Now getting into a relationship with someone who's been in such a long serious relationship wasn't my plan. We met on a dating site and connected instantly, I'm not kidding when I say we haven't had a night apart since the very first day we met. (Insane!).. but anyway, his ex has always been in the fucking picture. She has never fully left. Her stuff was still here when I finally moved in and there was a huge episode when she came to get all of her things. She was disrespecteful and called me names before she came over, telling me not to touch her shit when I messaged her being super nice asking what she wanted in her fucking box. She even through the engagement in my face and said "you can have him I gave him up and good luck on getting an engagement ring." After all this my boyfriend still continues to reply when she texts him. This week I've been feeling an overwhelming feeling of his ex and I finally had to go through his phone because my insincts are never wrong. And there it was, theyve been talking again. Nothing serious just "how are you" and some shit about what's going on with her surgery. BUT, that still hurts me. It kills me actually. I feel as though I'm always in the way of 2 people that maybe should just be together. I love my man and I trust him. And I know he's in love with me and he's happy.. but what if he doesn't know that deep down he still wants her. What if one day they just get together and I'm fucked. And also isn't it disrespectful to talk to your ex when she's been horrible to me and when they have so much history together. (Also I've been super nice about all of this.) and he doesn't know I went through his phone and saw this. It was the first time I've actually gone through his phone and seeing that they talk kills me. What do I do.