Am I petty?

Question

Perhaps I'm being petty, but my first mothers day brought up feelings of resentment and I'm not sure if my feelings are validated. 
I've been with my OH 5 years, had 4 miscarriages,  one living boy who's 2 weeks old and I'm so in love with him. He's the best thing to happen to me. 
My OH is an amazing father and a hard worker. He'd move the stars for his son.
Well, I knew I shouldn't have expected anything for mother's day from OH but I didn't expect to have to remind him to wish his mother a happy mothers day so he'd know to say it to me, (only to have him respond "oh yeah you too,") and have to pick out her gifts myself with no input from him whatsoever. 
It's been like that most holidays. My birthday he usually will say happy birthday or simply forget it, Christmas I usually get ignored, last valentine's day he actually ignored me stripping to play a video game....
It just seems like I always put a ton of effort into holidays for him, (I had his father's day gift ready since January 25th, valentine's since October, Christmas since July,). It seems very uneven and he knows I always go above and beyond for holidays for him and it's never reciprocal. 
Am I being petty? It's to the point I'm not looking forward to my birthday anymore. Thinking of it coming up next week just saddens me.

It's not that I expect gifts, I just want effort.

Answer

You need to read the five love languages with your husband! It sounds like your love language is receiving gifts, your husband is not meeting that need because he doesn't feel love that way.

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I don't think you are being petty. It sounds like it's genuinely hurtful to you. On the other hand- you say you've been with him 5 years and he's always been like this- so perhaps at this point if you want to see behavior change you might have to be more direct and vocal about your needs. Some men are kind of clueless and as much as we may need and want them to just know what to do- they don't. You have to make it very clear.

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I made sure to tell my DH a couple days before that even though I didn't expect a big gift or flowers, that I would be pissy if he didn't give me a little special treatment. He's not big into holidays so I knew I would have to straight up tell him my expectations or else I would be disappointed. He got me and the kids donuts for breakfast, did my usual chores that I do on Sundays  (the floors and scrubbing the tub), cooked a fish fry dinner, and gave me a really short foot rub at the end of the day. My advice would be to have a gentle discussion with him and let him know you are disappointed and what you would like on holidays like mother's day, and hopefully he gets the hint and remembers to do something for you next year (and maybe even something to make up for this year too).

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I'd be upset. You are a mother. The mother of HIS child and he didn't say anything to you? I'd snap on my husband if he did that to me and then got his mama something but not me?? It would be one thing if you two weren't together, the baby may or may not be his and you were wth someone else but to be married and not even get one ounce of gratitude for not only carrying and creating HIS child, but to experience those loses of HIS CHILDREN and not get the recognition of being a mama to angels and a rainbow baby is just rude. I'd talk with him cause if you're having issues now, they might grow and grow until you can't stand it and then the resentment might set in and you might end up hating him