Before continuing, we have very busy lives.  I'm in theatre and he works with computers and performs instrumentally. So please keep this in mind.

Every time we have sex, my heart feels nothing and every time I see him, my heart doesn't flutter like it used to. He's used to electronics. So when we snuggle, he sits on his phone most of the time. He mostly focuses on himself instead of asking me questions about how my day has been and such. We spend our time inside and we've been on a streak where we watch tv, smoke, have sex, and sleep for over a year now. I'm trying to break him out of this habit but it's not working. I've told him my feelings about things that aren't working but some days, it feels as if he's not listening and just wants me to talk it out so we can have sex.