32 in 10 year relationship, wanting kid but wanting to leave...

I've been in a relationship with my now husband of 1 year for 10 years. 2 abortions on my part because I wasn't ready and not sure if we would work out since we both verbally abuse each other (Me more then him for his past non sexual infidelities). I decided since I'm still with him and we were moving I together I might as well get married and do things the old fashion way. 

The first year of marriage was the worst. Arguments every few month about family, money and his obsession with buying expensive sneakers when we just brought a home. He is 2 years younger than me and acts 12. We somehow got Thru last year but not without it affecting my health stress wise. Now it's the same thing this year. I'm trying to bring the families together for Mother's Day and Father's Day and he tells me no, that it's his house to and his word should be final. I come back the next day and tell him it's just as much my house too and I am having Father's Day here at least for my parents. He yells and tells me I alway get what I want and he never gets anything. He stated he was going to tell me I could have it but now it's like I'm forcing him to have the party. I explain I want nothing from him. That I would do the lawn myself and don't need any money to throw the party but he's already pissed and just walks away without communicating any further. I am sooooo ready to give up on this disfunctionsl relationship. He wants me to get pregnant but is so immature. There's no talking to him without him feeling defensive or understanding anything other than his own yelling. I don't know what to do.