Ladies I would love some advice. My husband had a son from a previous relationship. He was 20 years old and she was 30 they got pregnant within the first two weeks of dating. She refused to let him have my husband's last name so his last name is her last name because they never married. Anyways he is 12 years old. His dad and I have been married for almost 4 years, we have a 2yr old daughter together.  He had a really really hard time excepting and adjusting to us being pregnant with her I know he's going to be really mad when he finds out we are pregnant again not sure if there's a way that could make it easier by telling him? Ok a lil history on him, I feel really sorry for him and I do really love him, but he doesn't like the fact his dad married. It was just him and his dad for almost 6 years before o came into the pic. He is mad he doesn't get to sleep with his dad anymore....STILL! He still wants his dad to help wash him in the shower, do his hair dry him off etc. when we told him we were pregnant the 1st time he cried and said he hated me and hated this baby. When we had her he didn't want to hold her he only acted more like a Baby to get his dads attention. I have told my hubs that I think he needs therapy. He doesn't understand why he doesn't have the same last name as all of us, he lives 3hrs away his mom moved him away about the same time we got married so he blames me for that also. His mom has 5 kids by 4 diff men. This is why I do have a lot of sympathy for him and have been very patient with him but he has made it perfectly clear that he doesn't want us to have anymore kids his dad was gone for a year for a deployment and when he came home he just cried for months begging and begging for us not to have anymore kids. He is going to be with us this weekend and his dad wants to tell him before he finds out from someone else. His dad doesn't want to address these issues as ignores the  fact that his son is disrespectful towards me and doesn't like me. The last weekend we had him he got in my face and yelled at me bc I said I was upset that he never calls us when he is with his mom and he has his own phone. He only calls when he wants something. He also has gain a lot of weight over the years bc I think he is eating his feelings bc his mom is so unstable in and out of relationships and she moved him far away from us. Anyways the whole point in this post is for help and guidance on how to break the news because I don't want to push him even further away from me and he already doesn't like me I can just imagine this is really going to make him hate me. Thanks