What are your struggles as a stepparent? 

I am a stepmother to a seven-year-old and four-year-old. I grew up with both of my parents being married along with my siblings. I try to understand what the kids are going through having to go from house to house every week.

I love my kids very much since I've been a part of their lives for the past four years. I've grown to love them and be a shoulder to them. I've always made myself available to them in case they are ever sad or just need somebody to talk to you. But this life as a stepmother isn't always easy. 

I keep myself away from communicating with the mother of the kids. Of course, I share my opinion with my husband but I understand that it's only an opinion and at the end of the day it's up to him and the mother. One thing I struggle with is when my husband undermines me in front of the kids.

Both my husband and I don't agree on the method the mother is raising the daughter, which is without any discipline. I try to understand when the little girl act out when she doesn't get what she wants. For example if she want something and I say no she runs to her dad and asks him too. Being daddy's little girl he tends to says yes. At times when daddy agrees with me she always has to say "but my mommy lets me do this". I understand they are still young but sometimes it hurts that I don't have their respect. It hurts even more when my husband decides differently in front of them. 

Any advice for me?