Control freak

I'm a control freak. Not in the sense of what usually comes to mind. I struggle with anxiety and when things are going bad for me and I have no control of anything, my anxiety spirals out of control. I have 2 daughters and a son on the way. They're dad and I are separated, and he's moved on. He's incarcerated right now and will not be out for the birth of our son, that alone has my anxiety at an all time high. The past few days anytime I walk past my sons dresser, ill start to think about what I should dress the baby in for when he goes to meet his dad at jail. And my anxiety gets so bad over it. I'm realizing that its just about control. What my son wears is the only thing I have control of in this situation. I take medication for my anxiety but that's not even enough right now. Has anyone dealt with this? Please give me some tips or advice!