My boyfriend & I have been dating for 3 years, we have a one year old whom I stay at home with & dad goes to work. Not too uncommon. Boyfriend works 12 hour shifts 3-4 times a week then gets the same amount off typically, alternating from nights to days every 2 weeks. Long hours but fairly easy work. I understand that he needs  his sleep, & he gets it, 8 hours a day more or less. People he works with tells him he gets more sleep in one day than they get in 3. All I ask of him when he is on nights is to get up with him for 3 hours until his first nap, & then he can sleep the rest of the day but somehow that makes me lazy & I need to "grow up", he says I should be the one doing most of the work Bc I am a "jobless mom". When he does decide to get up with him after I beg him to he just calls his son annoying Bc he needs help with everything & wants him to take a nap. He says he'll like it more when he is older, I just don't think he should be able to pick & choose at what stage of his life he gets to just jump in & be apart of Bc it's more convenient for him. He won't properly watch him, he'll just sit on the couch on his phone & let him get into whatever he wants. When he's on days I have to BEG him just to get him to get up & spend time with us just 2 hours before he has to go to work. He says I expect way too much Bc I want him to help more than he does. He treats having a kid as a contract, tries to make deals & regulations on which one of us does what & when & I feel it's unfair to his son. Am I asking too much???