I'm confused and don't really know how I should feel

Okay so I need some feedback on how to feel and just to get this off my chest what happened. So I met this guy off a dating app and we have been talking and I really liked him he was a great guy and all. The first date was amazing blah blah blah. I've only seen him a few times in person because he lives 30 mins away from me in NY and he's constantly working. I'm 18 he's 24. So lately we've been fighting a lot because he would late reply hours later and not even say anything and when I get upset he gets mad and we argue long story short. So yesterday we hung out again and I was planning on talking just finding the right time when. So few hours later we ended up in an empty parking lot just sitting in his car. I gain the courage to talk because it's just hard for me in person and idk he kind of just short responds then tries to make me laugh and kisses me so I just let it go. Then he said we should go in the back so I agreed. Okay now here is where shit goes down. I thought we were going to just mess around ya know? Like touch and feel and maybe oral but that's it. So we made out and it got to a point where I was in just my bra no panties and he had his tank top left on and no underwear so he's on top and starts kissing me and I feel his penis go near MY VAGINA. Mind you anyone could tell I wasn't feeling too much what was happening. So I freaked out and was like um what are you doing?! And I put my hand over my pussy blocking. And he just kept hitting his dick on my hand and I was trying to push him off but he wouldn't budge I kept trying for some time until I firmly said get off I do not want this. So he got off and had that stupid guy face like wtf? And I told him did he actually think we were going to fuck? And he was like well yeah what did you think was gonna happen? And I was like we could've gotten off without sex. And he was like um..how? Like being weird and not understanding at all. Then he said we literally talked about it and I said no we didn't if I wanted to have sex I would've said to you I want to. And he said you know, you're different and laughs , no one freaking says let's have sex or plans it just happens. And I got even more mad and was like well I am fucking different and don't fuck someone I just met you don't even have fucking protection! And not even being understanding. And he throws that well in a guy what do you expect me to go home with blue balls. After that I just stood quiet thinking about what jut happened I felt violated. And misunderstood. Then he tries hugging me and saying sorry then a little after he was like I'm still honey and tried initiating stuff again. Like are you serious? So whatever he got off then had a smoke and took me home. Then we were talking outside my door and was like I hope you're okay after tonight blah blah then we just talked about everything with us and came to a conclusion it's not going to work because I feel to much I have a big heart for people I care about and he feels to little and people like that always make me feel like I'm crazy and should be cold hearted since it's always I feel too much. I was going to stop talking to him anyway after what happened but still made me a little upset. It was goodbye. And I just woke up and my whole body is sore...especially my arms from trying to push him off and that shows the force I was putting and him just being rough at times and that's why my body hurts. Ugh idk. Was that assault? Or just a misunderstanding?