So my husband is military and will not be able to come home for the babys birth. No theres no way lol we are moving to live with him once cleared by the dr for the trip SO ive been dreading the idea of everyone meeting our little girl before daddy does and just dreading hospital visitors in general because im a ftm and i wanna relax, learn to breast feed...idk not have visitors while my vagina still feels like a small person plowed through it. Well my mom will be there for labor (soley because i need someome in case something were to happen) and not only did my mother in law cry when i told her she wouldnt be in the room she said "well see" when i told her i wasnt telling anyone when i go into labor because i dont want people waiting around for me i dont wanna feel pressure. Im also thinking i dont want them (or anyone) to visit until i come home, which is about a half hour closer for them anyway) but i think they'll be mad if i tell them i dont want hospital visitors...id rather be able to relax, learn, spend time with my baby and face time my husband. Am i rude for this? Is this an acceptable request? I really want other mommas opinions...