Soooo my mom is planning it, she's very traditional. Both my husband and I want to be there, but my mom says it's "not what she wants and not what's traditional" next, she also wants it a complete surprise (I have no say at all) so my baby shower could be a day where I'm lazy and don't shower? Idk maybe it's just me but this is our first baby, is it wrong for me to want what I want? Or should I just let my mom do what she wants? Anytime I mention something about the baby shower she tells