14 yr old daughter caught having sex

Last week my daughter asked to go to church with her boyfriend. But instead had sex for the first time, and got caught by his little sister. And then she was asked to leave which she did. But while waiting outside her boyfriend got very angry at his parents (im assuming they told him he would never see my daughter again) and grabbed a knife and sliced his arm open. When i went to pick her up she was in the back of a police car and the parents have put a retraining order against her. I think they went a little overboard. Ive always been very open with my children about sex and birth control so Im very let down about the situation. So its been a week and i really dont know what to say to my daughter.