What do you think?

Question

What do you think of those who think they know better than all of the recommendations for pregnancy and parenting and go against them? 
For example, things you should and shouldn't eat during pregnancy. There's always those who say things like, "I smoked my entire pregnancy and my child is fine."
Or the car seat recommendations. I see people all the time front facing their children under two years old. 
It drives me nuts. Why do against things that are set in stone?

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Some people think they are the exception or the outlying data point. That's why they think that research doesn't apply to them. The mentality of "it happened to me and I am ok" is something some people never grow out of. 
 
Look at all the fools who still think corporal punishment is acceptable, despite decades of research and over 50 countries banning it.

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Someone I know has their baby in a front facing seat and she's 11 months. It's like one of the first things I researched, I'm not really sure why people don't take time and make sure their children are safe by following safety precautions and reccomedations. Whether it's toys, car seats, or food just take a min and research for them to keep them safe.

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I hate seeing a tiny baby and their huge wobbly head roll around in a front facing toddler seat, but every time I've told said parent how dangerous it is, I'm the bad guy, so eventually I quit saying anything. It's their kid to risk dying, not mine.

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Those examples are not set in stone. In my area it's only recommended that the child rf until 2 yr, and the law is 1yr.

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I think not my kid not my problem. I didn't smoke but I did have a glass of wine every once in a while. I also ate lunch meat. My son was front facing at 13 months, because laws said it was fine.

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They don't understand statistics. I've had numerous people try to tell me certain statistics are wrong because "it didn't happen to them." Unless the stat is 100%, your anecdotes can't debunk the stats from studies. Probability doesn't work that way.
People also don't think bad things will happen to them. Since it hasn't happened yet, it probably won't happen at all. It isn't logical but they act like it is. Again, probability doesn't work that way..

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I think the reason ppl go against safety recommendations like that is because of the ppl who say, "I smoked my whole pregnancy and my baby is fine!" Or "everyone in my family smoked while pregnant and we're all fine." I hate that so much. It's the same for other topics that are recommended because they are the fucking safest!

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I think they have no right to act shocked when something bad happens.

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It irritates me. And it irritates me even more when I see people actively advocating that people do dangerous or not recommended things. I see it all the time on here. 
Lately there's been a lot of nipple piercing and BF-ing posts. I've seen a few people telling the moms that its okay to leave metal bars in or change them to bio flex. That is so not okay, even with bio flex jewelry and it irritates my soul. You're literally putting your child in harms way and knowingly putting a choking hazard in their mouth.

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I didn't stick by some of the rules. My son forward faced at a year old, he is 16 months now. He did perfectly fine but he's also in the 95th percentile for his size. He was really sturdy and not wobbly in the least.

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