It was the summer after 8th grade (I'm a junior now). I liked this guy but he was older than me. When I was a freshman he was a senior. We never dated but he said he liked me and that it could never happen because of our age. But me being stupid, we became friends with benefits because I thought maybe that it would change his mind and want to be with me. Well one thing led to another and about a year later I said no to vaginal sex and he was sad. So I said fine anal. I didn't really want to do it but I thought I had to because I "loved" him. I hated it. It hurt but I acted like I liked it for him because I "loved" him. We kinda took a break and then started up again. Except I told him no anal stuff. Well, I was bend over and couldn't see what he was doing. And he ended up putting one of his fingers in there. I didn't want to react so I acted like I liked it. I normally faked it anyways. But he was very kinky and he said if I liked that and of course I said yes. And he grabbed me by the throat and said then never tell me you don't want anything in your ass again. Is this rape or harassment or whatever?