how do I tell my husband..?

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How do I tell my husband he sucks in bed? 
He doesn't SUCK... but it isn't good. Here's the story..
So, before I had my first daughter, I had a high sex drive. After I had her, I got the Mirena and my sex drive plumeted. We had our second daughter 9 months ago and I go the mirena again. Sex drive plummeted again. During the time that I had No sex drive, I really didn't care how the sex was. I just wanted it to be done with as fast as possible. 
I recently got my birth control taken out and my sex drive is back, full force!! Only problem is, the sex is not good.

I feel like he doesn't pay attention as much as he should to my body language.. making out last night was awful. I feel like (now and for the last few years) I only can orgasm when I'm in control and can basically use his body to get off.. I wish he could make me orgasm without me having to put forth such an effort :(

How do I talk to him about this without hurting his feelings?!?

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It seems he just got use to the low sex drive when you didn't care much. I think a way to bring it up without sounding rude would be asking "hey remember that thing you use to do? You should do that tonight" or something like that

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I'd prepare to be eaten alive. My husband does not take those things welll. Very frustrating!

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Talk about it. Tell him what gets you off and things you like. It's not a matter of sucking. It's a matter of communication. I've had to tell my fiance a few times hey you get me right there and then you change what you're doing. We lose rhythm and it goes away again. Or can we spend a little more time on foreplay? I know you kiss my neck and you're ready to go, but I'm not... :D during its usually oh yea I like that, keep doing that. Don't stop. Especially because I know as soon as it starts feeling really good for me, he's going to change it up :D it doesn't hurt their feelings to know what makes you feel good or to hear what you need.

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My guy and I are pretty straight forward on stuff like this, the other day after we finished I said "if you take your hand away as I clamax before I finish then you have successfully edged me on and then crashed," he was like "whaaaaaa"? So I explained to him that he stops too soon and this is the like 7th time he's done it and left me hanging while I got him off. He doesn't get all butt hurt about things like that though. If your guy does I would tell him gently that you want to talk to him about it, maybe tell him that with you having your BC out that you have a higher sex drive and he may just need different techniques now?

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You would simply have to communicate. You have to tell him what you like and what works for you not necessarily be mean. More like make suggestions and maybe he has a few that he wants to do to you know where that he's more interested in.

how do I tell my husband..?

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