me and my boyfriend have sex often and it is as I would say a pretty healthy sex life. when we have sex I feel like he most times just jumps the gun and gets down to it without anything leading up to it. oh yes I understand those moments when it's a quickie and you wanna get it on as soon as possible! Lol but I feel like that shouldn't be every single time. I've tried telling him this and he hasn't put much effort into keeping it in mind. once he's finished after the first time then he's pretty much done and lays down, while I'm still waiting to get pleasure from any of it. So I guess I'm looking for advice on what I should say or do to make it more apparent to him how much it affects me?