I'm going to start with my husbands family. They treat him like shit. They have the whole time I have been seeing him. He has a rough past. He was a problem teen. Always in trouble. But he has grown up quite a bit. He still has his moments but I know he tries. His entire family that I have met still treat him like some teen that needs to be yelled at or told how to do things. He is a married adult for christ sake. The other night I came home from work and he tells me some drama that his sister was in and got him involved in. Her and his mom wanted something from him as usual. I got overly mad i will admit. He puts me aside whenever they ask anything of him. I am tired of taking a back seat. They treat him like crap and I treat him like a king. But I get the worse end of the deal.

We got into a HUGE fight and I told him that i am sick of watching them belittling him and making him depressed and then I have to help pick up the pieces. He was going to leave me because I said that.

It has happened multiple times where his mom says something messed up to him or plays victim and makes him so upset he is in tears and hating on himself. But whenever they call he jumps for them. We have been without food before and had every member of him family that lives in town tell us they wouldn't help us. Couldn't even spare a can of vegetables. Him mom refused to let us ride with her to an appointment when we had to go to the exact same place. Our appointment was 30 minutes after hers and we didn't even ask for her to wait for us. Nope. She made us walk. Because we wouldn't give her gas money. He bends over backward for people that shit on him and shits on the only women to ever put him first as he says. And now he has a family of his own starting. But my in laws always seem more important.

Next topic. My family. My mom bends over backwards for us. Runs across town to pick us up. Makes separate trips and doesnt EVER ask for gas money. Buys us food without us asking. But my husband wont compromise when it comes to them. Doesn't like going to my moms house. If i want to see my family I have to go alone or make it so fast it barely seems like i saw them. He acts like my family is beneath his. Like we are roaches and his were royalty.

Next. Im having an issue trusting him lately. I recently had someone tell me they thought he slept with their baby momma. They had no proof and didn't even know the persons last name but accused my husband. The girl however is quite on the easy side. And her current bf has a cousin with the same name as my husband. I let that go. Since we have been fighting a bit more excessively and i haven't wanted to have sex much and frankly, i feel insecure, I have that thought in my head that maybe he is cheating. I found out some girl was texting him and he says he was just asking her advice because we were fighting. But the only messages were ones she sent in the middle of the night that he hadn't deleted yet. Rest of the convo was gone. Same with a friend of his younger sister. And a few months back he messaged a friend of mine and deleted the messages. Im lacking trust here and i dont know what to do.

Last. Seems like any time i try to talk about things that bother me he wants nothing to do with it. If i start having emotions then im over reacting. If i start off a serious conversation calmly he dismisses it. If i get mad, we both end up yelling.

The majority of our relationship has been great but it seems like the bad things are really fucking bad. Even if we are great for months it seems like one bad day can ruin it all. I am so frustrated and i really need some advice.