DH used to complain I didn't initiate sex....now he is complaining about when I initiate. So frustrated and upset

Last night he complained when I tried to initiate at 9:30 at night asking why I initiate at night? He got upset and rolled over and went to sleep. I do initiate during the day on weekends but he was watching an "important " basketball game in the afternoon when our DD was napping and she was awake until 9.... would it really kill him to say up an extra 10 minutes to get intimate with his wife?