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Totally inappropriate. He's your professor, married, and has kids. Major red flags.
My professor invited me to have dinner with him
So he is a foreign professor in my university, he holds an extra class (not in the programme and everyone can registere for) in my faculty. He's married with children. I have talked about scholarships with him and he's been always very supportive and has offerd me so much help. We also have planned to do fieldwork in the near future. Once he had a problem with the class and I was aware of it, so we talkd over the phone for 20 minutes at the midnight and it was very nice.
Today after the class we were talking, we started walking towards a bookstore and although I wanted to take off he told me to stay. He did his shopping and after that asked me to have dinner with him. I didn't have much time so I refused and he was totally ok with it, but he did repeat his request and told me that it's not gonna be long and all. I refused again and took a rain check.
He's way older than me (maybe 15-20 years). Do you think there's anything inappropriate at all? I do want to have dinner with him if it's not. And I'm worried if I have to ask bim again or wait for him to ask me
Thank you ladies 😍
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As a grad student who is working with a male professor, here is my take!Keep strict professional boundaries. Dinner with him and his family is okay. A meal where there are other students present is okay. I've had a lunch in public with a prof. but for a specific purpose clarified before hand. I am at a university where everyone is personal and like family, but it still has to stay professional and have relational boundaries.
I personally think it's a little awkward. Maybe if there's like a café on campus that would make it less awkward but if you guys are like going to driving your car to go out to dinner than that's awkward. But it's also awkward for you to keep refusing but then again if you already refused , it should be awkward for him to keep asking
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