no sex drive and no idea how to fix it.

I'm right there with you! I used to use the nuvaring for bc and it obliterated my sex drive. Like scorched earth, raining sulphur, murdered it. Got off that four years ago and it still hasn't recovered. Can go months without even thinking about sex. It's awful! I hate it and it is affecting my marriage but no idea how to get it back. It's why we're having such a hard time conceiving our 2nd. I wish I could offer some advice, but all I can do is let you know you're not alone and send some internet love.

You kind of hit it. The sex is the symptom. Not the problem. I wish I could help, but I think wanting to fix it is the most important thing. From there you two probably need to talk.