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Sorry for long post....

So.. my boyfriend decided to take a break from me recently. He left me during the tough times I needed him most. (LDR and we will be together for 3 years next month..)

Fast forward almost 3 weeks later and I still haven't heard from him. I talk about my relationship with my sister and she told me to message him because what he's doing is messed up.

My sister doesn't believe in "breaks" because it's an excuse to talk to other people and ect. Plus it isn't hard to figure out if you want to be in a relationship for almost 3 weeks.. He's probably enjoying the break away from me but it's just torturing me waiting for him to come back but I'm just depressed and disappointed each day..

So I sent him a message pouring my heart out about my feelings and he responds to me with barely anything. He says a break can be as long as he wants it and he is still thinking. He said I'm basically pressuring him now.

I noticed all his responses to me showed no care for me at all and his excuse was he was busy at a party. I mean.. if the tables were turned, I'd make time to talk about it because I love him dearly but he didn't do that for me.

He said we can talk later if I wanted it so I said okay. But it's been 3 days now and I haven't heard from me.

Did I do something wrong? Did I pressure him ?
I'm just really sad wondering what I'm doing wrong. My sister tells me to forget about him and move on but I can't. I'm so in love with this guy and I don't know why he's doing this to me.

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Sorry you're going through this baby girl. But you should move on. Its always easier said than done, I know! But he's not giving you what you need and that is respect! He doesn't respect you enough to even give you a call back, he doesn't respect you enough to be upfront and honest with you. Once you get over this Lame ass guy. You'll be thinking what was I thinking! But in the mean time you need to keep yourself busy, instead of thinking and talking about him all day. But move on cuz it seems he sure has.

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If he needs his space then give it  to him. But beware as your sister said breaks aren't generally just time to reflect on the relationship, especially if you're in a long-distance relationship if you guys aren't seeing each other every single day then why does he need a break? after reading what you said it seems more as if he doesn't necessarily need space as much as he's trying to blow you off, or break up with you without actually saying the words.

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Hes a piece of shit and he's over you and he doesn't appreciate you, time to let go babe 💔

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Is this for real? 
Girl, he's just seeing what other girls he can get with. He has no intention of ever coming back, if he did it would only be to get his sexual needs when others reject him

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My ex did this to me twice and I later found out both times was just a 'I want to keep you around as a safety net while I go test the waters' case. It's completely disrespectful to you and I wish I could go back and tell myself to cut ties. Breaks only work if both parties actually want them as time to really reflect on what they want and agree on a time to reconvene and know if anything has improved or changed. It's a large possibility he just wants to keep his options open with you as a back up, and just doesn't have the balls to let you move on. He's showing you disrespect and you don't deserve that.

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Like your sister says, there are no such hints as breaks in relationships. And the way he's acting he really doesn't care about you. I'm sorry for your heartache

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