So I got this for my boyfriend who is currently gone for basic training. It's been a little over two weeks since he's been gone and I won't be able to see him until November-December. I'm currently waiting to hear from him. And the wait is so hard. Before he left we did talk about getting married (Just so we both know that this was what we wanted in the future). But once he asked me, I turned him down. Telling him that it was too soon, and that there were a few things that I was scared to happen if we did get married.(This is because I left an abusive relationship before meeting him). So we talked about waiting a bit. We agreed on that I would think it over after our first anniversary (May 27th of this year), that I'd think on it until the day he gets back. And that I think it's still too soon that we wouldn't bring it up again until everything felt right and that I was 100% ready to get married. Now for us, this is a very big step and commitment. We are both 21. Usually at this age, you have some people who are married or engaged already.

But now that he has been away, I've gave much thought on marriage. Idk if it's because of his absence that is making me think this, or that I really am ready. I still got 5 to 6 months left to think about it still. And everyday I ask myself if I'm TRUELY ready for this big step and the answer has been the same; Yes. And I've gotten to the point where I've bought us rings (he doesn't know about yet). But I've asked my mother about what she though, and of course she says that we are still young and that we are still living and growing.

I'm kinda at a lost right now.

Is my mother right about being to young and that we should wait?

Or should I listen to my heart and marry him? And should I make the move or wait until he does?