My husband and I have been together for 3 years, recently married. Every once in a while he gets really jealous and insecure about non-existent situations. He will insult me in ways that I find unacceptable, but when I say something he ends up just telling me I'm being too sensitive and getting even more mad. Then it takes us days to be happy around each other again.

For instance, we were walking by a white van that had left the sliding door open (it was relatively late at night) and I made a comment about how it looked sketchy and he responded with, "I'm sure in your single days you would have loved to hop in there." I told him that it upset me and he shouldn't say things like that to me. Then today it just got worse, I was texting a fertility friend and he wanted to know who I was texting (because he always thinks I must be texting another guy) and my friend was in the room, who doesn't know we are TTC, so I said nobody. I pulled him aside a few minutes later and told him who I was texting but he still proceeded to be in a foul mood for the rest of the night and when I brought it up he just got more mad.

I have been wanting to go to counseling for the last few months but he keeps avoiding it. I don't know how else we can work through it without a mediator because he just doesn't think my point is valid. How would you handle this? He has no reason to think I would ever cheat or do anything dishonest. It's just so unfair and puts me into a complete depression when he does this and then he gets mad at me for not being happy.

I'm so sad, I don't know what to do about it, I feel like I'm going around in circles