My boyfriend and I are really close, we were together for almost two years, separated for almost two years, and now were back together and we used to have lots of kinky sex, but ever since we've gotten back together it's been pretty vanilla basically every time. How do I get him to dominate me as aggressively as I want? We've talked about it a lot and I even guide him while we're having sex but it would be a lot better if he would just do it on his own, what should I do?