bleeding during sex 😥

Emily
so i tried to have sex for the first time a few weeks ago... TRIED to. it was so uncomfortable and kinda painful that i just told him to stop. i also bled a lot, which i know is supposed to be normal for the first time. 
but when we tried again a week or so later, it was even more painful and i bled just as much. he was only in there for less than a minute before i couldn't take it anymore.
a few days after that, i tried masturbating, fingering myself, just to see how it would go. i've never had any issues with it before, but this time it hurt like crazy and bled a lot again. 
i don't know what the problem is. am i not getting turned on enough? did my walls get irritated and i just haven't given them enough time to heal? or is it something more serious? 
advice pleaseeee 😥