blind love

Laila
Me and my boyfriend love each other so much but we are fighting a lot we fight more than we have a good time this things become a serious problem and we both are short temper people our anger control us we say so bad things to each other when we fight but still we come back to each other..... but things are going out of our control I am scared and I am sure he is scared as well that this will bring a soon end to our relationship it actually ended many times but we always come back .... a real end will come if we will remain like this and the things make it so difficult is when we became angry we hurt each other he reminded me always with his xgf how she was understanding him ( she is dead right now) because he was forced to separate from her I believe that she is still alive inside him how much he tried to hide but I know she is still alive inside him and when he remember her it shudders me it make me crazy and I feel like how much I will love him it's no use she will be the good one especially she went like that suddenly without any mistake....
I also was having a bf before him I loved that boy but I also separate from him because of other things it was in my hands to but I always try to not remember my xbf when I fight with him ....however I also remember my xbf coz he never did what my bf now is doing I was feeling more respected more important while my bf now deal with me like I am his enemy he became like he doesn't have have love for me he became so hard and cruel that much I doubt hus love to me .... but after we became fine he became a lovely boy ... now I don't know what to do to stop fighting with him ??? Or to deleted his xgf memory ??? Or to believe that he loves me really ??