Pregnant & alone...typical

I have no one. I'm 14 weeks pregnant trying to get my life together before I give birth. Only support I have is coming from my mom. Which is amazing I love her but idk I feel like it's not enough...cuz even she worries. I haven't told my siblings about my pregnancy yet, I know they will judge me so bad and I just can't handle that right now . The baby daddy is begging me to get an abortion. Which I know I'm not doing, it's completely out of the question, but he isn't taking no for an answer cuz it will "ruin his life" I feel so fucking alone. I cry every night. I genuinely feel like ending my life, it's the only way I know for certain all of this can just be wiped away, undone if you will. But then I think about the future and what my baby would look like and I get excited. 
just wish I could have a happy go lucky pregnancy..I know being a single mother will be hard but damn didn't know the struggles started already. Deep down I know this depression is fleeting I won't feel like this forever. I know I will prove everyone that's ever doubted me wrong. I have to. But damn I feel so down, like the closest to hurting myself I've ever been since I stopped cutting. 
Just want to know what some people do to get through this dark cloud 
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Ha

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I know things feel impossible right now, and I honestly can't even imagine what you're going through in terms of the pregnancy. But what I do know is that making the decision to keep your baby and sticking with that decision despite what other people are telling you makes you one hell of an amazing woman and soon-to-be mother, and I can also tell you this: you aren't alone. You are carrying a child that is depending on your survival and love. You are literally growing a miracle. While I've never known pregnancy, I have known depression. I know how impossibly dark it can feel. Like you've just hit the absolute bottom. Sometimes it can last for days, or weeks, or months. But one day, and it may not even be obvious at first, but you'll realize that you feel a little different. Maybe something makes you genuinely smile (and maybe it'll be your child), or you just feel lighter somehow, like a weight has begun to lift. It will come, I promise.In the meantime, please please PLEASE don't be afraid to reach out for help and support through this difficult time. It doesn't make you weak or a failure. Therapy is truly a great place to start. It helped me immensely, I can't stress that enough. You're going to come out of this and with new strengths and lessons. You're not alone, I can promise you that ❤

Sh

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There is always a silver lining to every dark cloud, sometimes you just have to look for it. Your baby is going to need you to be  there for him/her. They will rely on you completely, and nobody will be more important to them than you are! I'm always super emotional when I'm pregnant, don't be to hard on yourself.  It's a good thing for you to get everything lined up for when baby comes, just don't stress yourself out doing it. Try tackling 1 task a day, then each day you will feel accomplished, it could make you feel really good about yourself. If your siblings are going to judge you for taking care of your responsibilities then clearly they are very immature. As for the dad, it sounds like he doesn't deserve the blessing of this child. You are all the baby needs. As for your happy go lucky pregnancy, not everybody gets it... Just embrace the place you are in and love yourself for who you are. Try positive affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how amazing and strong of a mother you ARE. It feels weird at first but then you start to believe yourself and feel better about yourself. Always remember there are people who care about you, even in your loneliest times. You just need to reach out to them! Keep your head up and focus on what the baby needs from you, forget about all the negative people. 

Si

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I love you and I'm here for you girl💕