Help with having an orgasm!!

Gen
Okay so this is frustrating for me and my guy. I really want to have that awesome feeling that girls talk about when they orgasm and my guy really wants to make me cum and I feel like he feels slightly bad cause he can't make me cum. He isn't really down for toys and I've tried rubbing my own clit while he fucks me he likes it and sometimes he does it himself too, but I don't feel like I'm not even turning my own body on. Like if I can't masturbate without watching porn. And when he fucks me it feels soo good, but I want to scream his name, and orgasm. He also have choked me, spanked me and pulled my hair a bit and played with my nipples, but its like I have low sex drive libido or something. Any suggestions? Like on what we should do or if there is something I should take? I want to ask first before I go to the doctor's appointment which won't be some time during the fall. And if there's another way to reach my orgasm without always having to rub my clit? Please and Thank you!